Navigating Gottman's Four Horsemen

Relationships can be challenging, and at times, we fall into patterns that harm our connection. Dr. John Gottman’s Four Horsemen—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling—are behaviors that can erode intimacy and trust. Recognizing these and replacing them with healthier habits can make a huge difference.

• Criticism shifts to constructive feedback.

• Contempt becomes appreciation.

• Defensiveness transforms into accountability.

• Stonewalling softens with self-soothing.

These shifts take time but are key to creating a resilient, connected relationship. If any of these patterns sound familiar, therapy can offer support to break the cycle and build healthier communication.